YOUR ENERGY IS ALREADY BEING SPENT
Every day, you're spending your attention, focus, drive, and sexual energy somewhere.
What are you getting in return?
PORN • SCROLLING • FANTASY • COMPULSIVE MASTURBATION • CONSTANT STIMULATION
None of these things seem catastrophic in the moment. A few minutes of distraction. An orgasm. A temporary escape from stress, boredom, loneliness, frustration, or pressure.
And that's exactly why they're so easy to repeat.
But little choices compound. Over time, the cost isn't just your energy.
It's your attention. Your focus. Your drive. Your presence. Your ability to follow through on what you said you were going to do.
Until what began as a choice starts becoming a pattern...
And eventually, the pattern starts making the choice for you.
So ask yourself:
ARE YOU DIRECTING YOUR ENERGY...
OR ARE YOUR HABITS DIRECTING YOU?
SEXUAL PERFORMANCE
Better Sexual Performance Starts Long Before Sex Does
Sexual performance isn't separate from the rest of your health and performance. Your brain, nervous system, circulation, stress, sleep, movement, and breathing all play a role in how you respond sexually.
An erection depends heavily on healthy blood flow and nervous-system signaling. Your ability to manage arousal also depends on awareness, regulation, and your ability to stay present as intensity builds.
Which means you're building the foundation for better sexual performance long before you enter the bedroom.
Through the challenge, you'll use breath, movement, nervous-system regulation, and embodied practices to develop greater awareness of your arousal, stay more present with intensity, and build greater control over when you release.
Better Sex Isn't Just About More Arousal.
It's About Greater Capacity and Control.
DON'T FIGHT YOUR BODY.
LEARN TO WORK WITH IT.
Ready to Put This Into Practice?
BEYOND RETENTION
This Is Bigger Than Semen Retention
You're not being asked to believe that retaining semen will magically transform your life—or to swear off ejaculation forever.
You're being asked to spend 30 days becoming more intentional about your attention, your impulses, your arousal, your ejaculation, your habits, your energy, and ultimately, your choices.
Because the real practice isn't simply learning how to retain.
IT'S LEARNING HOW TO CHOOSE.
Can you feel an urge without automatically obeying it?
Experience discomfort without immediately escaping it?
Stay present when intensity rises?
Keep a commitment to yourself when nobody else is watching?
Every time you create space between impulse and action, you strengthen your ability to choose what happens next.
And that doesn't stay in the bedroom.
It follows you into your:
TRAINING • WORK • RELATIONSHIPS • DISCIPLINE • LIFE
Because When You Learn to Direct Your Energy...
You Change What You Can Do With It.
THE 30-DAY CHALLENGE
Grab Life by the Balls™
30-Day Sexual Alchemy Challenge
BEGINS OCTOBER 1, 2026
30 days to harness your sexual energy, gain greater control over your impulses, and intentionally invest that power into the man—and life—you want to build.
Along the way, you'll develop practices that support stronger erectile function, greater sexual stamina, and better control—while building the energy, focus, resilience, and self-command that carry into the rest of your life.
This isn't simply a challenge to stop watching porn or avoid ejaculation.
It's about changing your relationship with your sexual energy—learning to recognize where you're spending it unconsciously, interrupt compulsive patterns, regulate your nervous system, and intentionally direct that energy toward your health, relationships, purpose, and growth.
The Goal Isn't Simply Retention.
It's to become a man who can experience desire without being ruled by it—who can hold his sexual energy, work with it intentionally, and choose when, where, and how he expresses it.
BECOME THE KIND OF MAN WHO
Directs His Sexual Energy—
Instead of Being Directed by It.
Your 30-Day Journey
30 Days. Three Phases. One Intentional Practice at a Time.
This isn't about white-knuckling your way through 30 days of retention.
Each phase builds on the one before it—moving from awareness, to regulation and greater sexual control, to intentionally integrating what you've learned into the way you lead yourself.
PHASE 01
Stop Leaking Your Power
AWARENESS & FOUNDATION
Start by understanding where your energy is going, what drives your urges and automatic patterns, and how to create space between impulse and action.
You'll establish the foundations of Sexual Alchemy and begin practicing tools to interrupt old patterns in real time.
You'll work with:
DUST Cycle™ • Arousal Awareness • Sexual Alchemy Foundations • Microcosmic Orbit Level 1
PHASE 02
Direct Your Power
REGULATION & SEXUAL CONTROL
Learn to stay present as arousal and intensity build instead of automatically chasing release.
You'll use breath, movement, nervous-system regulation, and Sexual Alchemy practices to develop greater capacity, sexual control, and intentionality around where your energy goes.
You'll work with:
Breath & Movement • Nervous System Regulation • Arousal & Ejaculatory Control • Microcosmic Orbit Level 2
PHASE 03
Lead Your Life
INTEGRATION & SELF-COMMAND
Take the work beyond porn, ejaculation, and retention—and into the rest of your life.
You'll focus on integrating greater choice, discipline, self-trust, and intentionality into your sexuality, relationships, training, work, and the man you're becoming.
You'll work with:
Identity • Self-Command • Relationships • Purpose • Microcosmic Orbit Level 3
Three Live Sessions. Three Progressive Phases.
Your three live men's coaching sessions anchor the three phases of the challenge—giving you a clear progression from awareness → regulation → integration.
Everything You Need for the 30 Days
You won't be left with a few videos and a list of things you're not supposed to do. You'll have coaching, practices, tools, accountability, and community supporting you throughout the entire 30-day experience.
01 — Three × 90-Minute Live Men's Coaching Sessions
Your three live sessions anchor each phase of the challenge. We'll learn and practice together, answer questions, troubleshoot what's coming up, and help you integrate the work as you progress.
Awareness & Foundation • Regulation & Sexual Control • Integration & Self-Command
02 — 30 Days of Daily Coaching
You'll receive a short coaching lesson, reflection, challenge, or practice each day to help you stay engaged and put what you're learning into action.
One lesson. One practice. One day at a time.
03 — Private Men's Community
You won't be doing the challenge alone. Share wins and struggles, ask questions, stay accountable, and connect with other men working through the same 30-day experience.
Accountability • Brotherhood • Support
04 — Sexual Alchemy Toolkit
A practical collection of worksheets, guides, trackers, and exercises designed to help you apply the work throughout the challenge.
Reflection • Journaling • Tracking • DUST Cycle™ • Sexual Alchemy • Integration
05 — 90-Day Embodied Man Library Access
Go deeper with guided practices you can use throughout the challenge—and continue working with for 60 days after it ends.
Breathwork • Movement • Meditation • Nervous-System Regulation • Embodiment • Microcosmic Orbit Levels 1–3
Everything You Need to Stop Simply Fighting the Urge...
And Start Learning What to Do With It.
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Choose Your Level of Support
One Challenge. Two Ways to Experience It.
Both options include the complete 30-Day Sexual Alchemy Challenge.
Choose the level of personalized coaching, accountability, and direct support that's right for you.
STANDARD
The 30-Day Challenge
EARLY BIRD — SAVE 20%
$300
$240
Enroll by September 15th
The complete group experience.
For men ready to do the challenge with the structure, coaching, accountability, and support of the group.
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EVERYTHING INCLUDED:
✓ 30-Day Sexual Alchemy Challenge
✓ 3 × 90-Minute Live Men's Coaching Sessions
✓ 30 Days of Daily Coaching
✓ Private Men's Community
✓ Sexual Alchemy Toolkit
✓ 90-Day Embodied Man Library Access
✓ DUST Cycle + Sexual Alchemy Practices
✓ Microcosmic Orbit Levels 1–3
Begins October 1, 2026
MOST PERSONALIZED
VIP Coaching Experience
EARLY BIRD — SAVE $75
$750
$675
Enroll by September 15th
The complete challenge + private coaching with Brad.
For men who want personalized guidance, accountability, and direct support throughout the 30 days.
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EVERYTHING IN THE STANDARD CHALLENGE, PLUS:
✓ 3 × 75-Minute Private Coaching Sessions
Apply the work directly to your patterns, goals, sexuality, relationships, and life.
✓ Customized Homework & Practices
Receive personalized practices and action steps based on what we're working through together.
✓ Direct Private Messaging Support
Get questions answered and receive guidance and accountability between sessions.
Limited availability due to the 1:1 nature of this experience.
WHAT COULD CHANGE IN 30 DAYS?
Thirty days isn't going to magically transform every part of your life.
But it is enough time to interrupt familiar patterns, practice something different, and discover what becomes possible when you're more intentional about where your energy goes.
What could change when you stop automatically responding to every urge?
You may become more aware of your arousal—and more intentional about when you choose to release.
You may learn to regulate yourself when stress, boredom, loneliness, or discomfort would normally send you looking for an escape.
You may find yourself bringing more of your attention, energy, and intensity into your body, your relationships, your work, and the things you're trying to build.
And perhaps most importantly, you may reach the end of 30 days with something more valuable than simply being able to say you retained:
Proof That You Can Choose Differently.
Because for 30 days, you've been practicing something that extends far beyond your sexuality:
Feeling the urge. Creating space. Making a choice. Following through.
Not Less Desire. More Choice.
Not Perfection. More Self-Command.
FROM MEN I'VE WORKED WITH
Real Experiences. Real Change.
Grab Life By the Balls™ is new. The work behind it isn't. Here are a few experiences from men I've had the opportunity to coach.
I WAS PUSHING HER AWAY
“My wife and I are happier than we've ever been—and our sex life is great.”
My wife and I were happy, and I never thought of myself as someone with a serious porn problem. I wasn't watching it constantly. But when we'd fight or I felt disconnected from her, I'd sometimes push her away and turn to porn to feel better.
Eventually, she told me I had to choose between her and the porn. That was the wake-up call I needed.
I knew something had to change, but I didn't know how to make it stick. Through working with Brad, I began to understand why I was turning to porn in the first place and learned a different way of dealing with what was happening between us.
I was able to leave porn in the past and change the way I showed up in my relationship. Today, my wife and I are happier than we've ever been, and our sex life is great.
— Coaching Client
NOTHING I TRIED SEEMED TO STICK
"Porn isn't holding me back from the life I want anymore.”
I used to masturbate to porn and ejaculate almost every day. I felt drained, disconnected from myself and the people around me, and pretty directionless in my life. I was also using alcohol to avoid what I was feeling.
I'd tried blockers, support groups, and forcing myself to be more disciplined, but nothing really changed until a friend recommended Brad.
I've had a few slips with porn over the years since, but the difference is that it doesn't control my life anymore. The work I did with Brad gave me tools and a different way of approaching myself that helped me build the life I actually wanted.
— Coaching Client
I NEVER REALLY TALKED ABOUT THIS STUFF
“Brad helped me start looking at a part of myself I'd never really talked about before.”
I never thought much about what a healthy sexuality looked like for me as a man. It just wasn't something I thought men talked about.
That changed when I started working with Brad. His comfort talking about subjects that can normally feel taboo made it surprisingly easy to start having honest conversations and explore what I actually wanted for myself in this part of my life.
It opened my eyes to how much our relationship with sexuality can affect parts of our lives that most men tend to keep hidden.
— Coaching Client
READY TO CREATE YOUR OWN CHANGE?
START YOUR 30 DAYS
The Man Behind The Challenge
I've Lived This Work.
Hi, I'm Brad Kreitzer, founder of the Be Better Men's Program and creator of the ERASE® Method.
For more than a decade, I've helped men build greater self-trust, strengthen their relationships, reconnect with their bodies, and become more intentional about the way they live and lead. My approach brings together Social Work, Yoga Therapy, men's coaching, nervous-system regulation, and embodied personal development.
But my interest in this work isn't just professional.
I've had to examine my own relationship with porn, sexual energy, escape, discipline, and what it means to actually lead myself. I've been porn-free for over a decade, and along the way I've spent years exploring breathwork, movement, nervous-system regulation, embodiment, and sexual-energy practices—not as abstract ideas, but as practices I've applied in my own life, sexuality, and marriage. Today, these practices are part of how I continue to show up as a husband, partner, and man.
And one of the biggest things I've learned is that lasting change doesn't come from simply fighting yourself harder.
It comes from developing the capacity to experience an urge without automatically obeying it. To stay present with discomfort instead of immediately escaping it. To work with your energy instead of constantly trying to get rid of it.
That's a big part of why I created Grab Life By the Balls™ — 30-Day Sexual Alchemy Challenge.
Not to convince men that ejaculation is bad or that semen is some magical substance—but to create a space where men can spend 30 days exploring their sexual energy, practicing greater self-command, and discovering what changes when they become more intentional about where that energy goes.
The Goal Isn't to Suppress Your Desire.It's to Learn How to Lead It.
Brad Kreitzer, BSW
Founder, Be Better Men's Program
Creator of the ERASE® Method
✓ Social Work & Yoga Therapy
✓ 10+ Years Helping Men Create Lasting Change
✓ 10+ Years Porn-Free
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I have to retain for the full 30 days?
What if I watch porn or slip up during the challenge?
Is this basically NoFap or a semen retention challenge?
Does this mean ejaculation or orgasm is bad?
Can I still have sex during the challenge?
Is this only for men struggling with pornography or masturbation?
What if I miss one of the live coaching sessions?
How much time will this take each day?
Do I need experience with breathwork, meditation, or Sexual Alchemy?
What's the difference between the Standard Challenge and VIP Coaching Experience?
YOUR ENERGY IS ALREADY GOING SOMEWHERE.
Where Will You Choose to Put It?
Every day, you're spending your attention, focus, drive, and sexual energy somewhere.
You can continue spending it unconsciously.
Or you can spend the next 30 days learning to direct it intentionally.
One urge. One decision. One practice. One day at a time.
Stop Leaking.
Start Leading.
GRAB LIFE BY THE BALLS™
30-Day Sexual Alchemy Challenge
BEGINS OCTOBER 1, 2026
EARLY BIRD ENROLLMENT THROUGH SEPTEMBER 15TH
Choose the complete group experience—or add personalized private coaching and direct support throughout the 30 days.
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